Things are heating up in the bedroom and you’re about to give her the time of her life when—you’re already ejaculating.
Ejaculating too soon, or sooner than you’d like, is an embarrassing problem that affects millions of men.
Fortunately, there are solutions and steps you can take to help you last longer.
There are various factors that influence a man’s ability to last, and they can be biological, psychological, or both.
In cases of biological causes, premature ejaculation can be caused by hypersensitivity of the penis or weakened pelvic muscles.
Psychological factors can include performance anxiety, stress, depression, or issues within a relationship.
To help as many of our readers as possible, we’ve come up with the best solutions for lasting longer, no matter the cause.
Whether it’s for extending your own self-pleasure when masturbating or lasting longer in bed, there are a range of solutions to prevent premature ejaculation.
Read on to find out what causes you to come too soon and to discover the top 5 ways for how to last longer.
Condoms are the most straightforward way to last longer without having to resort to any drastic lifestyle changes.
Because condoms reduce sensitivity, they can delay ejaculation and let you last longer.
Some major condom companies, such as Durex and Trojan, produce condoms specifically for lasting longer or, as they are marketed, for “extended pleasure.”
Extended pleasure condoms are coated with benzocaine, which produces a slight numbing effect that decreases sensitivity and increases sexual duration.
Edging and Squeezing
There are physical techniques, edging and squeezing, that you can use to control the timing of your orgasms.
Edging is a technique that involves bringing yourself to the “edge” of orgasm and then stopping any sexual or masturbatory behavior right before orgasming.
Sex therapist Emily Morse, Ph.D., as reported in Men’s Health, explains that edging trains both the mind and body to control orgasmic response and timing.
Squeezing is another technique that allows men to regain control of orgasmic responses.
In the moments leading up to the orgasm, you can squeeze your member directly below the head of the penis.
According to sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., squeezing puts pressure on the urethra and limits the blood rushing to the head of the penis.
By momentarily limiting blood flow, squeezing represses the ejaculatory responses leading up to an orgasm and delays the orgasm.
Pelvic Floor Exercises
In some cases, weakened pelvic floor muscles prevent men from lasting longer.
Fortunately, there are simple pelvic floor exercises that can be performed to extend sexual duration.
To strengthen pelvic floor muscles, follow these simple steps:
Find the pelvic floor muscles. They are the same muscles you use to keep from passing gas or to stop urination midstream.
Tighten the pelvic floor muscles by contracting for three seconds, then relaxing for three seconds.
When first starting out, it might be easier to lie down and tighten the pelvic floor muscles until they are further strengthened.
Zero in on tightening only the pelvic floor muscles.
This means you won’t want to tighten the muscles surrounding the pelvis, such as in the buttocks, abdomen, or thighs.
Tighten and repeat in sets of ten, up to three times per day.
Medications to Last Longer
Extensive research is available into various treatments for lasting longer when those ejaculation issues are more severe than simply not lasting as long as you’d like.
Serious ejaculation issues are classified as premature ejaculation.
Not lasting as long as you’d like and premature ejaculation are different conditions.
Not lasting as long as you desire is, in some ways, a subjective issue that depends on your definition of “long.”
Premature ejaculation is a sexual dysfunction in which ejaculation occurs before vaginal penetration or shortly after penetration, within 1 to 2 minutes.
Research suggests premature ejaculation affects 20 to 30 percent of men.
There are pharmacotherapy treatments available that can help reduce sensitivity and repress premature ejaculation.
Topical anaesthetics, such as lidocaine-prilocaine cream, can be applied to the penis to reduce sensitivity.
The only setback to topical anaesthetics is that they can result in slight numbing, which may lead to loss of erection.
With topical anesthetics, it is also necessary to wear a condom to prevent spreading the cream into the vaginal wall and thereby numbing your partner.
Oral medications are also available in the form of selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs). SSRIs are taken daily.
Common SSRIs include paroxetine, sertraline, and fluoxetine. SSRIs are actually an anti-depressant, but various studies have shown that a side-effect of SSRIs is to delay orgasms.
Individual Therapy and Relationship Counseling
There are also cases where psychological factors influence men’s ability to last during sex.
Whether it’s stress, anxiety about performance, depression, or, for men in relationships, interpersonal issues with a partner, a number of emotional and psychological factors can lead to embarrassing premature ejaculation.
According to Michael Castleman, author of Great Sex: A Man’s Guide to the Secret Principles of Total-Body Sex, sex therapy is one of the most effective ways to prevent premature ejaculation.
Castleman suggests that sex therapy is a superior method to medications because of the numerous side effects of SSRIs, which include nausea, erectile dysfunction, and loss of libido.
Sex therapy covers a wide range of therapeutic and counseling approaches to help men last longer.
In addition to the behavioral and exercise techniques discussed above, sex therapy also involves addressing the psychological factors that may be causing premature ejaculation.
By improving confidence, self-esteem, and working out emotional issues with one’s partner, sex therapy allows men to get to the psychological root of their sexual duration struggles.
From Top to Bottom
If you’re struggling to last longer but you’re not sure why, we recommend starting with the least invasive techniques at the top of this article and working your way to the bottom.
From condoms, edging and squeezing, and pelvic floor exercises, to medications and therapy, the solutions are out there to help you last as long as you and your partner desire.
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